So there I was one Saturday minding my own business when my phone started flashing. It was a message from a guy I had been chatting to a few months back. A very very gorgeous guy might I add! We had tried to arrange dates a few times but nothing ever came of it, I felt like he were messing me about and if im honest I got bored so the chatting just fizzled out. Anyway I never expected to hear from him again, when his picture popped up on my screen a huge smile popped up on my face. I guess its true what they say, they come back eventually. I acted all ‘rules girl’ on him and made him wait for a reply. I don’t think he was expecting me to play it cool, you know the guys girls, gorgeous, has never had a problem with getting what he wanted. Well this time he was talking to a rules girl and I sure as hell wasnt going to fall at his feet (however gorgeous he might be). He wanted to date me apparently, I thought id give him a chance. Turns out because he lived about an hr away he expected me to drive to his and stay the weekend. Oh no no no. That just doesn’t work for me. He didn’t like that reply. He then suggested that he would drive to me but i would have to put him up. Oh would I now? Sorry mr good looking, I don’t think so. Again he wasn’t pleased with this answer. He then said he would come to me and book a hotel. Ding ding ding right answer, good looking, not so quick on the uptake it seems. I thought we were getting there. That was until he asked me if I would keep him company. Not a chance, we know what kinda company you want and it isn’t that of a rules girl. Goodbye. So yes they do come back eventually, give them a chance, they might not all be like my second chancer.
Month: November 2013
Online dating. …an update.
A week after my post about online dating and how I have added myself to a few websites i thought it were time for an update. I have decided, a film about my life would have to be called ‘Dateless in Manchester’ its been a week and I haven’t even spoken to anyone never mind get myself a date. From being told I look adorable (seriously what 26 year old female wants to here that) to messages that you will see below I am seriously wondering if im a dating (or not so much) disaster? ! Im staying persistent, after all the man im meant to be with is out there, somewhere and he sure as hell isnt going to find me when im sat in my house, feeling sorry for myself stuffing my face with junk in my onsie is he…..
Feeling crappy
After starting with a cold last night ive been lay on the sofa all day in my hello kitty onsie. I dont even like or have never liked hello kitty, my sister thought it would be fun to buy it me as it was very apt for my single cat lady lifestyle that ive been sporting for so long. I never get ill, is this a sign om getting older? Oh dear! So feeling and looking horrendous om feeling sorry for myself. You know how it is, as soon as you feel a slight bit rubbish everything gets on top of you. Im having a down day, a day of thinking why am I single, why does nobody want me and a day of wishing my bloody hair will grow haha. Ive eaten a full bag of haribo sour cherries and I don’t feel any better. The diet begins tomorrow, again!
Hair grows….
Love it or hate it your hair can make you feel sexy one day, then the next, not so much. Ive recently had my hair cut. Not having had a fringe what feels like decades I decided to get the chop. Going from a side fringe ‘frankie from the Saturdays’ hairstyle to a short bob with blunt fringe. Id been mythering my hairdresser to cut it for weeks but he kept telling me it wasn’t long enough on one side. Finally it had grown enough and was time to get it cut. I couldn’t wait, off I popped with a huge smile on my face to get the style id be wanting for weeks, a sexy sleek slightly inverted bob with a blunt fringe. An hour later itbhad been cut, I loved it. A little shorter than I was expecting but i loved it none the less. Back home id taken the standard ‘selfie’ and posted it on Facebook and instagram. The likes and comments were rolling in, everyone loved it. Apart from me. The more i looked in the mirror and the more i saw the picture the more I hated it. Id gone from feeling like this gorgeous female who could take on the world, had confidence and although I was single I knew I still had guys looking at me to this girl who hated her ‘cute’ new haircut. At 26 the last thing you want to feel is cute. Im 6 days into my new haircut and still hating it. Ive vowed not to go on a proper night out till its grown, although im sure a few glasses of wine will help me feel gorgeous again. So as I hate the style at the minute i just have to keep thinking and keep telling myself that hair grows. Now if anyone has any advice on how to get it to grow quicker it would be much appreciated. Bye for now, a not so sexy single girl.
If only….
So sat here at work, not much to do I cant help thinking if only id known about ‘the rules’ before now I wouldn’t have messed things up with guys before now. The latest guy id been speaking to in particular. We met on zoosk and spoke every second of every day pretty much. We got on really well, I was being my usual ‘independent I know what I want’ self and in the end I probably looked desperate and drove him away. Scared the poor bugger. He would say he liked me, say he wanted to take me out etc. I got sick of the empty promises, and lay things down, straight up. I knew he liked me for my personality else he wouldn’t have been speaking to me for months. I was drunk when I sent the message too – that never helps. It went along the lines of ‘if you don’t think im gorgeous we may as well stop speaking now’ that definitely isnt a rules girl right there is it. He replied with a haha and lol. Hmmmm not the answer i was looking for to be honest. Any sober person would have left it there, move on, if I wasn’t his type then shout ‘next’. Oh no, I was drunk, confused and wanted answers. ‘If you don’t think im fit why are you speaking to me’ was my next text. Oops. That was enough for him and he ran for the hills. Havent heard from him in a week. If I was a rules girl I wouldn’t have messaged him for so long with no dates being planned. A rules girl doesn’t get attached to someone who doesnt have feelings for her, she moves on after a certain period of time because he hasnt asked her out. He hasnt worked for her. That is simply because she isnt his type. I miss speaking to him but what is the point in carrying on talking to someone if all they want is to text you. There isnt. Why waste both your times just because he is bored or is flattered you like him. I do wonder if id known about the book and played it differently if id have got a date with him. But what’s the use in wondering. All I can do is say ‘next’ and learn from my own mistakes.
Online Dating. …
How many is too many? Me and my friend have been told to get ourselves out there, get on online dating, not just one, try a few out. My question is, signing up to how many sites is too many? After a quiet day in work ive singed myself up to 2 more. In total im on 4 sites – 3 are the free ones and one ive decided to pay the subscription fee for a month, to see how it goes. I haven’t had much luck with online dating, well dating full stop to be honest so lets see if the 2 new ones have any effect. Im sticking to being a rules girl too. If things arent working out for you, the best way to sort that is to change how you’re doing things. So wish me luck in my new dating adventure, im hoping I’ll have something to write about soon.
Weekend dead zone
Im now a rules girl. Friday at 6pm I dissappear from the world, well mainly guys that are contacting me through social networking/texts/phone calls/I.M/whatsapp/dating sites. Its going to be difficult, im used to being permanently attached to my phone but im determined to see if through. From 6pm tonight if a guy contacts me I wont be replying until 6pm Sunday. I might not get any messages, I may get a few, either way im starting as I mean to go on, heres to being a new rules girl.
Pinch! Punch! First of the month!
1st of November has arrived. Before we know bit that jolly fat man will be arriving with goodies for all the good boys and girls. This year has flown by. So, a new month is upon us. A fresh start, forget everything that has happened last month, start a fresh today. Anything that you have been wanting to do, do it. Clear your head of rubbish and start living, Today is your day, your new start. Keep going with your head held high and your heals higher.
White rabbits, white rabbits, white rabbits!
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